Why We PICK The WRONG Partners (It's NOT Your Fault!) #shorts
You're not picking wrong. You're picking what fits your mind.
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Why does the negative scream louder?
Because it has pain. And the avoidance of pain.
When you have a bad event — it hurts you. It scares you. And then you start thinking about it.
And you ask not so smart questions.
"What's wrong with me?"
"What did I do wrong?"
"It's my fault."
"If only I would be perfect."
"Maybe if I do everything he wants — maybe he won't be mean to me."
That keeps you in the trauma bonding experience.
"Why do I keep picking the abusive partners?"
"My picker's wrong. I keep picking the wrong one. And they're getting worse."
You're not getting worse.
You're getting better at picking what fits in your mind.
In order to improve your relationships —
you gotta improve the ones you started and learned from.
And change how you hold and represent that.
#eutaptics #FasterEFT #RobertGeneSmith #SkillsToChange #TraumaHealing #HealingWork #InnerWork #SubconsciousMind
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Why does the negative scream louder?
Because it has pain. And the avoidance of pain.
When you have a bad event — it hurts you. It scares you. And then you start thinking about it.
And you ask not so smart questions.
"What's wrong with me?"
"What did I do wrong?"
"It's my fault."
"If only I would be perfect."
"Maybe if I do everything he wants — maybe he won't be mean to me."
That keeps you in the trauma bonding experience.
"Why do I keep picking the abusive partners?"
"My picker's wrong. I keep picking the wrong one. And they're getting worse."
You're not getting worse.
You're getting better at picking what fits in your mind.
In order to improve your relationships —
you gotta improve the ones you started and learned from.
And change how you hold and represent that.
#eutaptics #FasterEFT #RobertGeneSmith #SkillsToChange #TraumaHealing #HealingWork #InnerWork #SubconsciousMind
Jun 21, 2026
