36 Episode: Why Nothing Works For You: The Black Sheep of the Family Rebels.

Ever feel like you’re the one person for whom nothing works?

You try the program. You try the coach. You try the healing. You try the New Year’s resolution. And somehow… You end up right back in the same old movie. Same feelings. Same patterns. Same “what’s wrong with me?”

Here’s the truth: you’re not broken — you’re just running a bad program.
And your brain is excellent at running it.

In this episode, Crystal and I go straight into the real reason people “fail” over and over: your mind is pulling from old memory files—rules you learned in your family system, survival patterns you rehearsed for years, and emotional links that keep you “safe,” even when it costs you your happiness.

We talk about:

Why being “the black sheep” is often a trained role (and how to change it)
Why “spiritual explanations” can become a fancy way to cope instead of change
How trauma bonding works (why you keep going back for the “feel-goods”)
Why most manifestation methods turn into a temporary fantasy if your old pain still has more power
How real change happens: update the memories and the references… and your life changes

Crystal even says it straight: she spent years doing “energy work,” felt good for a moment… and then went right back into the same deflated reality. That’s not because she’s weak. That’s because feeling good for a moment isn’t the same as changing the root.

If you’re tired of coping… and you’re ready to actually change the program, book a session with me.
We don’t just talk about the past — we change what your brain is doing with it. When those internal files update, your reactions change. Your choices change. Your life follows.

Tap it out. Update the file. Get free.
Book your session and let’s get to the cause.


Key points (numbered)

-“Nothing works for me” is a pattern, not a personality.
- Your brain uses the same process to feel bad or good—just different focus and references.
- “Failing” repeatedly can be a trained survival role (black sheep / loser identity).
- The mind will sabotage success with symptoms and distractions to keep you in alignment with training.
- Many belief systems help people justify and cope, but don’t teach how to change memories.
- Identity can get tied to pain: “If I change this… who will I be?”
- “Spiritual” behavior can become a role you wear in certain places, not a real internal shift.
- Trauma bonding: you tolerate misery to keep access to the “feel-goods” (connection/attachment).
- Addictions (including emotional ones) run on the same mechanism: anticipation + deprivation + relief.
- “Positive visualization” fails when the old pain file has more emotional weight than the dream.
- Real change = update the internal references (memories) your brain pulls from.
- The “Ultimate Manifestation Process” idea: write what you want, then list every reason/memory that says you can’t—that’s what to clear.

0:00 — Nothing Works? Here’s the Real Reason
0:56 — You’re “Successful” at Failing (And How You Do It)
3:40 — The Brain’s Job: Keep You Safe, Not Successful
4:14 — “Black Sheep” vs Spiritual Labels (Let’s Get Real)
5:22 — Why the “Chosen Trauma” Story Doesn’t Hold Up
7:08 — Identity: When Pain Becomes Your Value
9:15 — Soul, Spirit, and the Learning Machine
12:14 — Indoctrination, “Sin,” and Why People Stay Stuck
14:34 — Chasing Rainbows Doesn’t Change Inner References
16:18 — Mother Imprints: “You’re Like Her in Reverse”
18:37 — Who Benefits From the System You Believe?
22:26 — The Rule That Stops You: “Don’t Shine”
24:24 — Why People Quit Right Before the Breakthrough
25:33 — Labels & Disorders vs The Real Cause
30:35 — The Depressed Client Who Didn’t Want to Feel Good
33:28 — Internal Rules: The Survival Contracts You Live By
35:41 — When You Change, Relationships Push Back
37:13 — Trauma Bonding Explained (Misery for “Feel-Goods”)
42:22 — Addictions, Cutting, and Escape-Programs
47:35 — Why You Won’t Be Successful in 2026 (If You Repeat This)
49:13 — Manifestation Myth: Fantasy vs Real Change
51:37 — The “Cup” Metaphor: Which Reality Wins?
55:22 — UMP: Write What You Want, Then Clear the “No” File
57:18 — Final Message: Stop Running—Change What You Carry
1:06:08 — Outro
1:06:31 — Bonus Real Talk: Dad Imprint + The “Act Dumb” Survival Trick

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