02 Episode The Shocking Truth About Self-Sabotage and How to End the Cycle!

- Ever feel like you’re your own worst enemy? You set ambitious goals but find yourself falling back into familiar patterns. In this compelling episode, Crystal Derksen and Robert Gene, America’s leading expert on stress and healing, uncover the truth behind self-sabotage and reveal how our brains are actually working in our favor. linktr.ee/robertgenesmith

If you've been feeling stuck or confused about why you can't break free from unhealthy patterns, this episode holds the answers you've been searching for.

Join us for an eye-opening conversation that promises to shift your understanding of yourself and your challenges.

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0:00 — Cold Open: “Monetary… Financial… Start Over”
0:22 — Are You Your Own Worst Enemy? (The Hook)
2:00 — Welcome to The Robert Gene Experience
2:38 — The “Saboteur Within”: Myth or Fact?
3:14 — Ancient Problem: “I Do What I Hate” (Reframing “Sin”)
4:25 — The Real Driver: Conditioning Beyond Consciousness
4:37 — Weight Loss Isn’t the Problem (It’s the Symptom)
5:34 — Why Diets “Work”… Then Fail
6:33 — Misconception #1: “Try Harder” & Willpower
7:15 — Conscious vs. Unconscious: Who’s Really in Charge?
8:59 — The Truth: Your Brain Chooses Survival
10:33 — How Your Childhood Instills the Program
12:02 — The World Trains Fear (Public Speaking Example)
14:31 — Panic Attacks: Harmful… or Protective?
15:20 — The Fluorescent Light Story (Trigger = Memory)
20:14 — Why Ignoring the Past Doesn’t Work
21:32 — The “Power Tool”: Changing Memory References
22:36 — Misconception #2: Self-Awareness Alone Fixes It
23:48 — Procrastination Explained (Avoiding Discomfort)
26:32 — Redefinition: Self-Sabotage = Self-Protection
29:45 — Emotional Eating & Cultural Conditioning
33:25 — “Zombie Mode”: When You Don’t Notice the Program
34:29 — Relationship Loops & the “Black Sheep” Pattern
36:12 — Narcissistic Patterns: What It Is (And Isn’t)
38:56 — Familiarity: Why You Pick the Same Person Again
43:38 — Level 1: Learn the Mechanics of Your Mind
45:34 — Straight Talk: Stop Waiting
46:41 — Final Message: Make Peace With What’s Inside


Key points of the video

- “Self-sabotage” is framed as self-protection driven by unconscious programming (survival alignment).
- The unconscious/limbic system runs many behaviors automatically; conscious willpower often loses to conditioning.
- Many “fixes” fail because they don’t change the underlying program—they just try to override it.
- Weight loss is presented as a symptom issue (control/power, emotional conditioning), not simply a food plan problem.
- Panic attacks are described as the brain attempting to keep someone safe; triggers can be tied to past experiences.
- The proposed solution: change the memory/emotional reference (using neuroplasticity concepts), then behavior shifts more naturally.
- “Self-awareness” alone isn’t enough if it becomes a label (“I’m just a procrastinator”); you must address the cause.
- Relationship patterns—including narcissistic dynamics—are linked to familiarity and training from earlier environments.
- Core takeaway: make peace with what’s inside you by learning how to update the internal programming.

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