Many people spend their lives trying harder in relationships and still feel unseen.
That effort isn’t random.
It’s learned.
When love is conditional, the brain records a simple rule.
Do more, be better, try harder.
That rule becomes a program.
And it repeats across school, work, and relationships.
This video explains how emotional programs form, why effort replaces connection, and how these patterns keep choosing familiar dynamics.
Jan 26, 2026